Remember when your little girl or boy was a new born? They were cute, cuddly, stared at you in awe from across the room. Or, maybe your new born was a little fussy from the start.
Either way, there are 5 main reasons your child (newborn, pre-teen, teen or young adult) maybe acting they way they do.
Reason 1: Nutrition–– If your child is NOT getting adequate nutrients with every meal, the body begins to function poorly because it does not have the nutrients it needs to run properly. Basically, it is like filling your gas tank of your car with a mixture of gas in water or something totally obscure like coke, then expecting your car to drive you across the country without any problems. Not likely!
The other side of proper nutrition is food sensitivities. If your child is having a reaction to food, it will show in his/her behavior. Imagine eating or drinking something that irritates your body. The way the body will show a negative reaction is through physical symptoms such as a cold, sleepiness, high energy to get this “junk” out, skin rash, itchy eyes, runny nose, diarrhea and more. But, lets remember that chemicals, dyes and manufactured foods change our brain chemistry, stimulating the kids to act out. Not because they want to be angry or out of control, but because their brain is having a reaction too. For breast feeding mom’s, your diet can impact your babies significantly. That maybe why your child is a little fussy or colicy. Baby is reacting to your diet!
Reason 2: Hormonal Imbalances–– Often times when someone says hormonal imbalances we think sex hormones only. Yes, this does play a HUGE role in the way a child feels and reacts- puberty is a huge transition point in the lives of young men and women, but I also want you to remember hormones covers thyroid function (metabolism and energy) in addition to adrenal gland function (stress, energy, sleep/wake cycle) and other glands that secrete important hormones like the pituitary (sleep/wake cycle) and pancreas (how our body responds to sugar).
Reason 3: Digestive Health– Okay, lets talk one more time about the health of your digestive tract. Food is a huge component, but the overall health of your GI tract is usually a reflection of what you eat, but sometime also a sequelea of other stresses in your life (school stress, family stress, social stress, pharmaceuticals, poor diet, nerves and more). When I say GI health, I’m referring to many things- how strong and healthy are your intestinal mucosa walls, are there holes creating leaky gut syndrome, is your flora in balance, is there blood, mucus, ulcers, parasites? As you can see, I have lots of questions! And the answers I get from lab tests, physical exams and conversation lead me to a proper Naturopathic Treatment plan designed just for your kids!
Reason 4: Poor Coping Skills– Between the ages of 2-5 your child is learning how to cope with life’s changes, challenges and stresses. If the child is not supported properly during this time, the child will often develop a lack of coping skills or unhealthy coping skills. And this will effect your child’s behavior in the future. Understand your child’s coping mechanisms and how that plays into their behavior today. Side note: coping skills bleeds into self-esteem, self-worth, self-awareness, depression, anxiety, ADD, ect… It is behavior!
Reason 5: Lack of Routine– Children spend the first 13 years of their life in what I call a Psoric immunological state in addition to a phlegmatic temperament. Confusing to an untrained ear, but let me break it down! Psoric immune systems are all about survival. The body wants to work efficiently. It wants to take it what it needs, get ride of what does not serve it well and develop. It wants to eat, sleep, drink (water), move, breath, express (illness, emotion, imbalance) and eliminate (waste- urine, daily bowel movements, CO2, sweat). If their immune system is not supported, there will be physical, mental and emotional reactions/complications. In addition, their personality at this time is all about gathering. Gathering information to then repeat the information and learn to survive. This is a survival state. Which is why routine is so important. As parents we want to train the body to gather certain types of information at certain times so it can eliminate, develop and heal properly! The lack of routine creates confusion to young soul. Think about how you feel when your environment changes constantly. It’s fun, but can also be unstable and taxing.