I had an overwhelmingly strong desire to go to church this past Sunday and the sermon was on Friendship.
The minister talked of David and Goliath (the man who defeated the giant in a one-on-one duel). And of Johnathan, the man that was suppose to defeat Goliath, son of Kind Samuel. I think I have the names right. But the point of this story and the focus for today’s blog is on friendship.
How many of us love our friends and claim to have many, but really “are to busy with work” to spend quality time together? To caught up in “needing our relaxation time” that we just send superficial texts verses connecting in person? Are willing to be a shoulder to lean on in a time of need, but shy away from company when we are going through something tough? Are so caught up in “business and making $$$ or a name for ourselves” that are priorities have fallen greatly out of alignment.
Friends are defined as the people that love and care for our well-being. People that love us in all our forms, confront us with loving honesty, support our growth and affirm us for the gift we are in their lives.
Have many people are you willing to be a friend to? And how many people are willing to love, support and care for you as a friend?
My grandmother use to always say, “you have to be a friend to have a friend. And at the end of the day all you really have besides your honesty, integrity and self-love is your friends and family.” But, many of us shy away from that level of connection because we have been burned in the past (death, lies, heartache, unsafe emotional spaces), don’t trust others with our imperfections or do not love ourselves for all that we are (placing self-judgement).
In the story of David and Johnathan. Johnathan was a team leader, he knew he needed friends of support to succeed. David was a loner and felt he needed no one and could do it all on his own to create success. David however was an out cast, running for his life and survival. When Johnathan was in the rink with Goliath (the giant he was to defeat), he got hurt and was pulled from the fight while “the 2nd string quarterback” (David) took his place. David defeated Goliath. Johnathan, humble and gracefully, took off his sword, his cloak and armor and congratulated David for his win and promising him protection from his father who wanted to kill David. David learned of friendship.
Soon thereafter, when David was hiding out (again running for his life), Johnathan continued to burst in on his “personal time” and offer him advice on where to go to remain safe. David did not know how to respond with thankfulness, but his lesson continued, opening his heart to others, graciously accepting gifts of love and surrendering to a supportive community.
1. Tell your friends this week what a gift they are in your lives.
2. Put connection before business and watch how your business grows in LOVE verse EGO.
3. Find ways to be a part of something greater than yourself.